A beginner's guide to: Sex (mindful)

physical intimacy, intimate connection, sexual connection, mindful sex

Conscious sex is about being fully present, aware and emotionally connected, helping you deepen intimacy and awareness through focused attention.

In a hurry and don't have any questions?

  1. Check out our safety recommendations.

  2. Find a consenting partner to share this experience with.

  3. Discuss what it means to approach sex within a conscious framework.

  4. Once you are set up, head to our Practice Guides and get started.

Looking for detailed practice guides? Hang tight, they are coming soon!

What is sex?

Conscious sex is about engaging deeply with each moment, free from distractions or performance expectations. It’s similar to bringing presence into other parts of life – whether eating, cleaning or walking – where the focus is on being intentional and fully aware of what’s happening. As a beginner to this approach, you’ll experience heightened awareness of your body, emotions and connection to your partner or self. The benefits extend beyond the act, promoting emotional intimacy, mental clarity and overall wellbeing. By embracing conscious sex, you may cultivate a more meaningful, fulfilling experience that deepens your relationship with yourself and others. Ready to bring focused attention into this intimate part of your life and dive into the world of a deeper and more intimate connection?

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Why mindful sex is good for you

With so many reasons to add mindful sex to your routine (like deepening emotional intimacy, aiding mental clarity and fostering a sense of fulfillment), it just might be worth considering if it's right for you.

Deepens emotional connection

Emotional well-being

Reduces stress

Emotional well-being, Physical well-being

Improves body awareness

Physical well-being, Self well-being

Boosts self-confidence

Self well-being

Enhances communication

Social well-being

People who love sex

Emma Watson

Actor

Gwyneth Paltrow

Actor

Harry Styles

Person

Sex Education (TV show)

TV Show

Real people's experiences

Starting to have mindful sex? Read this first

You're probably ready to climb between the sheets. But before you do, there are some important things to keep in mind. Sex can be safe and enjoyable, but these helpful tips will ensure that your experience is a positive one.

Safety

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Communicate openly with your partner about consent, boundaries and any potential risks to ensure mutual understanding and respect.

What you might experience

🧠

"How do we make this a conscious practice?"

🤯

"Whoa, I’m noticing everything."

💞

"I feel more connected."

🤔

"This is more intense than I expected."

😌

"Why didn’t we try this sooner?"

Getting started guides coming soon...

Are you ready to start having mindful sex?

We are busy working on detailed getting started guides and individual practice guides to follow.

What you need to know about sex

Wondering how to get started? Explore the table below and discover everything you need to know to get your practice started, right now.

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Unexpected advantages

Ancestry, history, facts and other trivia

"Sex and the City" popularized discussions about sex and relationships in the late 1990s and early 2000s.

Honeybees have one of the shortest sex lives; male bees die immediately after mating.

The Kama Sutra, an ancient Indian text on love and sexuality, was written around the 3rd century.

In the Star Trek universe, Vulcans experience "Pon Farr" where they must go home to mate (or face a painful death).

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Academic research we rate

Is Sex Good for Your Health? A National Study on Partnered Sexuality and Cardiovascular Risk among Older Men and Women

Liu, H., Waite, L. J., Shen, S., & Wang, D. H. (2016). Is Sex Good for Your Health? A National Study on Partnered Sexuality and Cardiovascular Risk among Older Men and Women. Journal of Health and Social Behavior, 57(3), 276–296. https://doi.org/10.1177/0022146516661597

More Than Just Sex

Debrot, A., Meuwly, N., Muise, A., Impett, E. A., & Schoebi, D. (2017). More Than Just Sex. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 43(3), 287–299. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167216684124

Toward an Integrative Model of Intimacy, Sexual Satisfaction, and Relationship Satisfaction: A Prospective Study in Long-Term Couples

Beaulieu, N., Bergeron, S., Brassard, A., Byers, E. S., & Péloquin, K. (2022). Toward an Integrative Model of Intimacy, Sexual Satisfaction, and Relationship Satisfaction: A Prospective Study in Long-Term Couples. The Journal of Sex Research, 60(8), 1100–1112. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2022.2129557

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